The Good, The Bad, and the Really Really Bad...

Throughout middle school when young boys' and girls' adolescence is raging heavier than a bull in Spain (cheesy metaphor), we are introduced to "Sex Education". Yes, commonly they (the teachers) would promptly dichotomize the boys with the boys and the girls with the girls. Without asking our "sex orientation" teachers assume that gay boys and girls are eager to learn and imbibe and the proper ways to practice safe sex...with the opposite sex.

I recall being in a tyke in middle school, and inquisitive, I was eager to learn (and perhaps see, other than my mother's once) what was hiding under what seemed like abnormally larger mosquito bites on most girl's my age chest. I was thoroughly excited about this sex-Ed class as was every other horny bastard who carried a penis.

Never once did I realize that some boys or "queers" as we called them in middle school who were gay, seemed a little unease during these sex-Ed videos. Now that I am older I can understand they were not at all intrigued about seeing a vagina on video, or rationally understanding the concept of having sex with the opposite sex.

Not until High School are"gays" and "queers" more socially acceptable to a certain degree. In Middle school it was blasphemy to be thought of as gay let alone show emotions for the same sex. In "Doing Desires" by Deborah L. Tolman, she initiates a study as to how often (if any) do teenagers who are raging through adolescence show open sexual affection for heterosexual, bisexual, and gay relationships. Now that I recall having a girlfriend or boyfriend in high school was the "cool" thing to do, it was "good". If one was commonly known as a bisexual, they would typically not be taken as serious and left out or be characterized as "bad" . If a student was red flagged as "gay", then he or she would be "really really bad" and often bullied.

Visibly sexual attraction for the same sex was forsaken and often ignored as a whole in my middle school. Gays and lesbians had no rights and were silenced and sowed shut. I believe this should be an awareness in all schools across the country so the emotions and violence can safe and prevented.