While reading Romance:Sweet Love by Bell Hooks many thoughs were going through my head. It is intresting to see how society plays such a big role on not only how we grow up to distinguish how a male and female should act but, also how we should love and be loved. I had never put full consideration to this topic. The need to love is in our everyday lifes, that when we do not have it we feel empty. While growing up the pressure of finding a perfect love leads to higher expectations of each other. Which in some people may lead to taking the wrong decisions. Aslong as there is someone at their side it does not matter if they are being treated correctly. This is why at many times girls, stay in an abusive relationship just because they need the feeling of being wanted by someone not necessarly because they want to feel loved.
In the reading it made a clear point that women are the ones that seek love while men only seek sex. Could this be true? Well, it is always thought of being that way. Men always go to the girl who is prettier and as aome put it "easier". Not to say that all men are that way. But because of social norms women are always thought ot be the nurturing ones. Women are the one taught to have feelings while men are taught to be string and not show emotion. I guess this is why men do not say those three magical words I Love You. And i have heard men say that those three words will only get them in trouble or sets the bar higher so they can please women.
It is difficult to say that love does not exist. Love does not exist on people who do not want to accept it in their hearts. But the higher our expectations the less likely we will find love.
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